Parenting Books - "How to Really Love Your Child"

I've read LOTS of parenting books. Some are conceptual (what, why). Some are practical (how). Most are a mix. Most books have some ideas that are helpful to me and some ideas that are not. A lot of it depends on the parent, the child, and the dynamic between them.

Here's the first of my favorites (more to follow):

How to Really Love Your Child (Ross Campbell, M.D.)
This book helps build a solid, loving foundation in your relationship with your child.
We all love our children, but don't always understand how to show our love in a way they can perceive. Children perceive love in these ways:
  • Physical touch. Hugs. Wrestling. Patting their arm. Tousling their hair.
  • Eye contact when talking or listening to them.
  • Focused attention. Spend time interacting with them as often as possible.
  • Discipline them consistently. (Discipline is not the same as punishment. It means teaching, training. Punishment should be only a small part of discipline, or even not at all.)

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